reference issue: assert whole error messages

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• Version: *
• Platform: *
• Subsystem: test

It's a continuing goal that our test suite will assert full error message content (since it has been decided that changes in error messages is semver-major)

• test/parallel/test-vm-timeout.js: test: changed test2 & test3 of test-vm-timeout.js #13453

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@nodejs/testing is this a dup? I couldn't find another.

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@tniessen 10x!

[BridgeAR]

Closing as outdated.